Posted by Former Office Manager on April 03, 2009 at 10:29:21:
In Reply to: a serious subject, need some good legal advice(possibly) posted by rathernotsay on April 03, 2009 at 10:23:13:
If you can find it in your heart to try and save this man the embarassment of losing his job and destroying his life (and he is reasonable when sober - I'm guessing last night's dinner included alcohol).. I would return his call and explain that you aren't going to tell anyone what happened, but you need assurance that nothing like it will ever happen again. Explain too that unfortunately your relationship will have to remain work-only and no longer can you have friendly outings like before. If he can respect that arrangement, see what happens. You might be pleasantly surprised. I would definitely document this situation, though, in writing, in the form of a journal entry or notes, so you have it for your records. If you want to REALLY be sure it doesn't happen again, document the agreement you two reach, in writing and have him sign. This way you have something to hold over his head, should the situation happen again or should he perhaps hold this against you in some way.
: I have been a sales employee at a south surburban station for the last 13 months and really like my job. When I was hired, my boss gave me a lot of praise regarding my track record at a former CC station. My boss became a mentor and we have had plenty of good times outside the station(eating, going to concerts.) Last night we were hanging out after work and having a nice dinner when all of a sudden he started moving closer. The next thing I know he has his hand on my leg and is massaging it and telling me how much I remind him of his son he never had. If yoou haven't figured it out, I am a male myself. I immediately told him that I didn't work that way and I am sorry if I gave him these thoughts. He immediately started crying and explaining that his life has been going down the tubes that his wife didn't love him and the three kids were a financial drain. Also, he told me intimate details about his travels into the city for "gay sex," his wife not knowing. After many tears, I consoled him by saying that he had my trust. Then, he f******* reached for my leg again. He apologised and said he wanted to find god and would I help him. Needless to say, I called in sick today and honestly don't know what my next step is. By the way, he has left 7 voicemail messages in the last 3 hours, pleading with me to call him and not reveal his secret. I feel stressed and uncertain. I don't want the guy to lose a job over this but I just can't see myself working with him after last night. Any advice is welcome.